Hot on the heels of the notorious Heard V. Depp trial (June 2022), I heard about this book, and it certainly piqued my interest. I'm not usually interested in the true crime genre, but the bizarre soundbites that kept showing up on social media drew me in, and so did the extreme responses of the fans. 'Nuff Said.
This book is a deep dive, not exclusively into crimes committed by women, but moreso Western Society's perspective on women and crime, both social, legal and scientific. And it may not be what you think it is. Specifically the theme is "the nature of female aggression."
Exploring a number of specific crimes committed by women in detail and examining the public, legal and scientific data about them, the author found that our culturally influenced attitudes about women as the "weaker sex" have created an environment which serves badly both for the victims of women's aggression and for the the women themselves.
In order to clearly highlight the influence of our culture, which is primarily a Western/Christian influence, the author compares cultures less influenced by implicit patriarchal beliefs, where women may be as accepted as aggressive and physical as men, something that, to our culture seems very alien. For example, our western attitude is that women are the better sex, the purer one, but also the one that
doesn't think for itself, and never acts, but only reacts. (at the time
the book was written, the term "patriarchy" was not in usage as it is
now).
The author manages to walk that razor's edge social attitudes on one side and hard data on the other in order to shine a light on the difficult-to-look-at facts that women are fully human, fully equal to men in all ways, including aggression and violence. At the same time, her writing stays witty, clear and highly readable.
The author manages to span a number of important places and perspectives to give us a thorough picture. She opens the book by looking at other cultures where womens' aggression are more believed and accepted. On an island off Venezuela, for example, it is accepted that women may be as strong or stronger and more violent than the men, and it is a point of pride, something they call Parar El Macho to balance male aggression. In aboriginal societies in Australia and Africa, aggression and violence is about equally initiated by males and females, and women have even been known to lead genocides.
She also describes her initial difficulty in finding psychological research here in America on women and aggression, simply because most researchers didn't see the point, since their patriarchal attitude precluded the idea of female aggression.
The book goes on to explore the world of female serial killers, women who murder their kids, women in prison and more (a recent edition, released in 2021, includes a new chapter on medical caregivers and violent crime). Each chapter presents its facts and premises clearly and colorfully (sometimes too colorfully), but with an engaging narrative style, and even a touch of humor.
Perhaps nowhere is the troubling dichotomy made more obvious than the chapter on women who kill their own children. In previous chapters we find women literally getting away with multiple murders because the authorities sees women as both unable to initiate violence, and too good and pure to really hurt anyone. But one of the many things revealed in this chapter is that many of the mothers who killed their babies actually sought help before they committed murder, but were disregarded as merely suffering normal post-partum depression, and that their natural maternal instincts would soon kick in and make motherhood wonderful for them.
If you were ever fell afoul of the mean girls in school when
you were little, if you ever had a bad divorce, if you were ever victimized unjustly by a woman but were told you must be at fault because
"women don't do that," you may find this book quite cathartic.






